After much deliberation, my husband and I have concluded there are 2 ways to guarantee a second date. I’m sure there are exceptions, but for the general scenario this is what we call a “George Foreman Guarantee”. In our house, that means it’s the highest of all guarantees.
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Let me expand on the “general scenario” for just a second. What I mean by that would be something of the following example:
One boy. One girl. Two hearts beating wildly {haha anyone heard that song? That goes way back into my childhood 🙂 okay, okay sorry I’ll stop rambling now.}
So I mean that if you are trying to date someone to get to know them better. Someone who potentially could like you, and you could potentially like them. I’m talking about more than just a second date to “hook up”. I’m talking about if you are serious about getting married, then you’re trying to date to get to know the person better. That’s the scenario that these two tips will definitely help you out with.
First way to guarantee a second date: Ask Questions
Ask questions? That seems like a weird way to guarantee a second date… you must be questioning me now.. Okay give me a second to explain.
On your first date make sure to ASK QUESTIONS! This will accomplish a few things.
It will first help you “weed” out potential people who might not be a good match for you. It might help you identify possible red flags.
BUT. It will also make the other person feel super good about themselves. Here’s what I’ve found in life to be true. People like to talk about themselves. Some might be a little more hesitant, a little more closed off, but if you find the right topic, people like to talk about themselves. It’s true. It makes them feel special!
If you make the other person feel special when you are with them, they will want to be with you again.
Second way to guarantee a second date: Touch their elbow
Okay, now you must be questioning me even more. ha!! I’m for real about this. “Touching their elbow” is loosely meant for flirt with them!!
For the GIRL: When you flirt with a guy and gently touch his guy elbow, there is something in a guy that wants to go out with you again. It shows the guy that you are interested, but you aren’t throwing yourself all over him acting “silly” for lack of a nicer word.
For the GUY: When you flirt with a girl and gently touch her elbow, it validates the girl that you are interested. It also shows some level of security. It’s a gentleman’s way of flirting because it’s not like you are trying to make a move, but you are also showing interest.
Summary? People want to feel validated, special, and they want to feel like the other person is interested in them. Make sure to ask questions, and gently touch their elbow! 🙂
Your homework? Next time you are on a date and it’s going great and you want to guarantee a second one, try these two things. Then come back and let me know if & how they worked!!
For other great reads, make sure to check out How to Choose THE One! And ways to reduce your unwanted stress!
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